I’m seeing a married man and his double life means my needs come last

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M having a steamy affair with a married man but his double life means I am the one missing out.

He’s 42 with two kids. I’m 35 and divorced.

He joined my workplace as a salesman but lives 200 miles away. He says his marriage is in a mess, so working away works best for him.

We started an affair, and thanks to his living arrangements he can be with me for most of the week and then go home on Fridays to his wife and kids.

He had a knee op recently and I was worried sick. I obviously couldn’t visit him and I didn’t see him for a month.

To recover, he has had a holiday in Dubai with his wife, and I found that week very difficult.

I hate being the fourth person on his list of priorities after his wife and kids.

DEIDRE SAYS: He’s holding all the cards, so you’re bound to feel stuck.

He says his marriage is in ruins but you only have his word for it.

He may be perfectly happy having you fulfilling his every need in the week and then running home to his wife for more of the same at weekends.

You want to have an open and honest relationship with somebody who can give you what you want.

My support pack Your Lover Not Free? may help you to take a step back and see this relationship for what it really is.

You can then decide whether you’d be happier moving on.