Uncle took my virginity away at 17 before dumping me and leaving me heartbroken

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I was 17, I slept with my uncle for the first time.

Our relationship had started with some innocent hugs here and there.

I’m a woman of 30 now and he is 28 years older. He had been married for ten years at the time he took my virginity.

I truly thought he wanted to be with me when he separated from his wife a few years ago but I discovered he was busy pursuing other women.

I was heartbroken. He was the only man I’d ever been with.

I gave him everything. He recently got back together with his wife, with whom he has a child, and has brushed me aside.

I had a hard time letting go but after finding out about all the other women it feels like what we had was a farce.

Was I just a number to him?

DEIDRE SAYS: While you were over the legal age to have sex, I’m sorry to say he groomed you.

It was not your fault but sex with him is classed as incest and is against the law. You can find support through the National Association for People Abused in Childhood (napac.org.uk, 0808 801 0331).

They can help you decide whether to tell your family and report him to the police – it’s not too late. His child could be at risk.

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