Relatives have abandoned us after we lost our mum to cancer
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my brothers, sister and I lost our mum to cancer two years ago, our aunts and uncles said they would be there for us, but we’ve never heard from any of them.
I am a woman of 25, the eldest of four.
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My sister is the youngest and she’s 18. We lost touch with our dad years ago.
Our cousin was killed in a road accident recently and they didn’t even tell us – we read about it in the local paper.
We asked about the funeral and they said we weren’t allowed because of social distancing.
But we went along after the service and there were loads of people by the grave.
Should we cut them off or take the higher ground and stay in contact?
DEIDRE SAYS: This is hurtful but you’ll feel better if you behave towards them the way you would have liked them to behave towards you.
Show sympathy, suggest you all meet up and show you want to be involved as a family.
But also find understanding support for the grief you clearly still feel.
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