How do I end my new relationship to date someone else without things getting messy?

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been seeing a really nice girl for three months – so how do I tell her I want to date someone else?

We met online and it’s been going really well

She’s got a great sense of humour and gets on well with my friends.

But last month I bumped into a girl I knew from school. I’ve always fancied her, but she’s always had a boyfriend.

She’s finally single – and interested. We’ve been messaging for three weeks.
I really want us to give it a shot, so I need to end things with the other girl.

But how do I do it gently?

When my ex broke up with me, it was brutal – she made me feel like I wasn’t good enough, and that’s the last thing I want to do to her.

I’m 27, she’s 26.

DEIDRE SAYS:  Ending a relationship, however long it has been, is never easy.

But you’re doing the right thing – it would be wrong to let this drift on when your head is somewhere else.

Let her down gently, but do be firm. Don’t give her false hope by saying things such as, “Let’s reassess in a few months.”

My support pack Ending A Relationship has some helpful tips.

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