My wife runs our home like a military compound and I want out

DEAR DEIDRE: FEAR of becoming a part-time dad is keeping me in a terrible marriage.

I am 38, my wife is 36 and we have a two-year-old son, who is the love of my life.

But ever since his birth, my wife has run our home like a military compound and become increasingly controlling.

If things aren’t done the way she wants, she screams at me.

The other day, I was home from work early, so I took our little boy out for a walk to share some precious time with him.

I thought my wife would be pleased to have a break. Instead she went absolutely mad at me.

She yelled it was his nap time and I was disturbing his routine.

We don’t talk or sleep together any more.

I want to end my marriage, but can’t bear the thought of only seeing my son at weekends.

DEIDRE SAYS: You do not have to choose between being miserable or leaving your son. There is a third option – to try to fix things first.

It sounds like your wife’s behaviour has become obsessive, and perhaps she needs some professional support with this, if she will accept it.

My support pack Overcoming Obsessions could help.

If you want to try to make your marriage work, consider having some relationship counselling. Contact tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960).

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