I’m 68 and recently widowed – but I’ve fallen for my younger next door neighbour

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE fallen for my nextdoor neighbour but can’t decide if he is only leading me on.

I’m a 68-year-old recently widowed woman, while he’s 42. He’s single and I’ve known him for several years.

He’s been very kind to me recently and visited me regularly in the hospital, looked after my cat and also did a few odd jobs.

Sometimes I think he’s flirting with me but then he’ll ignore me in the street.

I’ve invited him over a few times for a cuppa or a glass of wine but he never turns up.

I don’t think I’m any more to him than friends but I can’t get him off my mind.

I’m old enough to know better than to feel like this.

DEIDRE SAYS: A major age gap can be overcome but this man most likely sees you more as a second mum and not as a potential partner.

If your heart really is set on him, then consider telling him.

At least then you will know where you stand – but the risk is he will back away.

I suggest you give it a while to see if your feelings settle down into seeing him more as a son.