My wife thinks we should only have sex once a month but it’s not enough

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife is starving me of intimacy and I’m hungry for it.

She only wants sex once a month, while I would like it two or three times a week. I don’t think that’s greedy.

We’re both 34 and have been together for seven years, married for two. We have two young kids.

At the start of our relationship, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other.

We’d have sex in every position, in every location, several times a day.

But since we got married, her libido is non-existent.

Occasionally, she’ll agree to have sex just to keep me sweet, and she always has an orgasm.

The rest of the time, I have to pleasure myself or remain frustrated.

I love her and don’t want to stray, but this has been getting me down.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s normal for the amount of sex you have to decrease as your relationship develops.

And once kids come along, you’re often too tired or distracted.

Talk to your wife, and say how much you miss intimacy and want to sort this out.

Adding romance back into your relationship might help.

Read my support pack, Reviving a Woman’s Sex Drive. for helpful tips.