When my husband cheated, you helped save our marriage

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I learned my husband had cheated on me with my son’s friend’s mum, I couldn’t see how my marriage would continue.

Worse, I had to face the other woman at the school gate.

I’m 42 and my husband is 44. We have been married for 12 years and our son is six.

I wrote to you for guidance. Although I still loved my husband and thought I could forgive him, I didn’t want to beg him to stay.

You advised me to have a frank conversation with him, and gave me your support pack, Cheating, Can You Get Over It?

You pointed out the other woman would feel far more awkward than me.

I followed your advice, Deidre. My husband and I had a deeper conversation than we have in years.

He said he still loves me and wants to work on the issues in our marriage, which we’re doing with a counsellor.

I’ve avoided confrontation with his ex-lover, who keeps a low profile.

Thank you for not judging me or my husband.

DEIDRE SAYS: Marriages can recover from infidelity, which is often a symptom of deeper troubles. Walk­ing away isn’t always the answer.