My childminder endlessly mum-shames me for giving my son food that keeps him happy – it’s not junk but she’s so judgey
A MUM explained that she felt shamed by her childminder who disapproved of the “processed food” she gave her baby.
The mum-of-two explained that she wasn’t even feeding her child unhealthy food but the childminder insisted it wasn’t good enough.
She took to Mumsnet to ask for advice from fellow parents.
The woman said: “My ten-month-old I have been sending with a puree pouch, some snacky foods from Ella’s kitchen and a yogurt for his lunch.
“He didn’t take well to baby led weaning at all despite having six teeth from six months old and so we decided to ease him into finger foods and others through this way.
“Our childminder mentioned she would like us to send a banana with him as she felt he was having a lot of processed foods.
“I was happy to do this but did explain he has home cooked meals of an evening. No issue though and started to send him with one.
“Now the last few weeks he hasn’t eaten it, it’s not been opened. So it’s just going back and forth for show. Not the same banana haha!
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“He won’t eat other soft fruits like berries at all, and hasn’t been keen on banana either.
“So last week we didn’t send him with one. And she made a comment to ‘remind us’ to send it and he needs to not eat so much processed foods.
“I feel judged, despite explaining he has home cooked at home.
“She’s making it sound like we’re sending him with a bottle of coke and Wotsits!
“I’m also frustrated at the fact he’s my son and if that’s what I want to feed him, I will do so.
“Though I understand she has to give advice, being so judgey has just really made me annoyed.”
Fellow Mumsnet users were quick to jump in with their thoughts.
One person said: “Have you asked why she keeps sending [the banana] back? I think you need to push back if she isn’t feeding it to him.
“When my son was with a childminder they provided all his food, I didn’t realise that some expect you to supply your own.”
Another said: “I really don’t understand this, is she expecting him to open it himself?”
A third said: “Childminder: Don’t forget to send a banana!
“You: Oh we’ve stopped because he wasn’t eating it. You can give him what’s in his lunchbox, thanks.
“Simple as that!”
Another joked: “You could start sending a plastic one in and see how quickly she cottons on.”