Constant battles with my weight makes me feel like a failure

DEAR DEIDRE: MY size 14 jeans fit perfectly at the moment but by the summer I’ll no doubt be back to a size 20.

I’m a serial dieter and no matter how much weight I lose, it always piles back on.

I’ve been overweight my whole life and dream of going abroad for a cut-price gastric bypass op.

My weight has always held me back and makes me feel so low.

I wish I could live a life where food wasn’t constantly on my mind.

I’m a 52-year-old single mum and live with my 21-year-old daughter.

I eat tub after tub of ice cream in front of the TV until I feel sick. Then I feel like a failure.

My whole life has been rubbish and I don’t see things changing any time soon.

All I want to do is lose weight and be happy.

Please help me before it’s too late.

DEIDRE SAYS: You can definitely turn things around.

You’re eating not because you’re hungry but to distract from painful thoughts and feelings.

If you can face up to the root of these painful emotions and work through them, you will really be able to move forward with your life.

Talking to a counsellor who specialises in disordered eating would help you.

Please contact bacp.co.uk for help finding a reputable therapist.

You can get healthy by focusing on eating and exercising well.

And read my support pack End Weight Worries.