When my marriage had run it’s course you helped me find love again

DEAR DEIDRE: MY marriage was in crisis when I first wrote to you eight years ago.

After 20 years together, and with two grown-up children, my wife and I had drifted apart.

I was then 47 and my wife was 46.

She told me she was bored with our relationship, particularly our sex life, and wanted to sleep with other men.

I still loved her but didn’t want to share her.

For me, sex is about intimacy, not just a physical act.

You told me I didn’t have to go along with her plans and that I should try to work on the marriage and our sex life with her.

You sent your support packs Looking After Your Relationship and Saving Your Sex Life, and recommended that we contact Relate (relate.org.uk) for therapy.

It soon became clear my wife wasn’t invested in the relationship and wanted to play away.

So I ended my marriage.

Now I am happily remarried to a lovely woman who enjoys being in a committed, monogamous relationship. Thank you.

DEIDRE SAYS: Sometimes we need an objective opinion to confirm what we already know. I am so glad that things have worked out for you.