Should I risk it all to follow my dream job to South Africa?
DEAR DEIDRE: TAKING the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that I’ve been offered would mean losing the love of my life.
I’m 29, my fiancée is 27 and we’ve been together for five years.
Our relationship has been great, but I’ve always wondered if there could be more to life.
When I was young I dreamed of travelling the world and embarking on new adventures, but now I feel like everything has become predictable.
Every day is the same – I wake up, go to work, come home, watch TV, then go to bed.
So on a complete whim, I applied for a job as an international aid worker.
I never believed I would actually get it, but to my surprise, I was offered the job. The only catch is it’s in South Africa.
At first I was so excited, but then I broke the news to my fiancée.
She said that if I truly loved her I wouldn’t flee the country, and promised me that if I went, she would leave me.
I feel so torn. I want this job more than anything, but is it worth risking everything for?
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DEIDRE SAYS: The only person who can make this decision is you.
Your dream job and the relationship don’t have to be mutually exclusive, but it does seem that you need to weigh up what is more important to you.
Take some time to think it over, and if you do decide to leave your relationship, my support pack Moving On will help you find some clarity.