Sex with my gorgeous cousin is amazing and I now can’t bear to be intimate with my boyfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: FAMILY get-togethers are certainly more exciting since I started having sex with my gorgeous cousin.

This wild affair is reckless but I’m addicted to the illicitness of our hook-ups and the unpredictability of it all.

I’m 31 and female and should know better.

I thought I was settled with a generous, loving boyfriend who I have been with for seven years.

He is 36 and great in every way. Everyone tells me I couldn’t have wished for a lovelier man.

My cousin is my dad’s sister’s son.

He is also 36 and has made it clear he isn’t looking for anyone to settle down with.

We met up four months ago at a welcome home party for his sister, who had been travelling abroad.

We have always got on well, but this time there was something about the way he was looking at me – it was clear he was taking me in, appreciating what he saw. We could both feel the electricity.

Even as we spoke, all I could think about was being in bed with him.

Before he left for the evening, he pressed his number into my hand and whispered that it would be “fun” if I called him.

I knew exactly what that meant. I dithered for a week before I rang him.

He suggested we meet in a pub for a meal.

It ended up being a very boozy dinner then he suggested we have coffee at his.

When we got there he opened another bottle of wine and we went upstairs.

We couldn’t wait to get each other’s clothes off and I had the most uninhibited sex ever. It was amazing.

We now meet regularly and the sex is still incredible.

The problem is the more I’m with him, the stronger my feelings become.

I’m not kidding myself — I know it will only ever be just sex but I can’t tell anyone because of all the family upset it would cause.

I can’t bear it when my partner touches me now. All I think about is my incredible cousin.

DEIDRE SAYS: This cousin will not be around for long – only until he gets bored and looks for other amusement.

And then you will be left broken-hearted as you have already admitted you are starting to fall for him.

But ask yourself why have you been so vulnerable and fallen for him?

Someone who you know will never commit to you?

If you know you don’t love your partner then be honest about it and move on.

Otherwise you aren’t being fair. If you do love him and the only thing missing is a fantastic sex life, do something about it.

Tell him you feel you should both be getting more thrills from sex and read my support pack How To Be An Exciting Lover together.