How can I continue working with my boss after he chose to marry someone else

DEAR DEIDRE: HE always promised that we would be together, but my boss has just told me he’s got married to another woman.

I’m devastated.

For years he has led me on, making me feel I was special.

I’m 34 and he’s 40. We have been close friends for four years.

Although we’ve slept together a few times, I always said I didn’t want a secret office relationship.

I had no idea he’d started seeing someone else. When he told me they’d got married, he couldn’t even look at me.

He said they’d met online and it was a whirlwind affair.

I feel so hurt, betrayed and confused. I never want to see this man again but I have to work with him.

How can I get over this?

DEIDRE SAYS:  It sounds like he wanted to have his cake and eat it too.

Or perhaps he didn’t have the guts to be honest with you.

Either way, he’s not the man you thought he was and you deserve better.

Time will ease your pain and it will help to talk to someone. If you can move to another team at work or find a new job, it may make things easier.

Read my support pack, Mending A Broken Heart.