11 of the most cringeworthy moments on 'Love Is Blind' season 4 so far

When Paul Peden first met Amber Wilder in episode one, he asked her what her name was and immediately discussed how she was named after the gemstone. Paul must have gotten amnesia because afterward, he asked her, "What's your name? How old are you?"

I know he was probably nervous and the mistake is ultimately harmless but still...moments like that are why the phrase "awkward turtle" exists. 

A dater named Billy asked women some potentially offensive questions in episode one.

Some might find it funny to ask a stranger (who has hopefully passed a thorough background check) if they've ever murdered anyone. But grilling someone about their nationality and their height, especially while on a dating show that prioritizes personality over looks, is uncool. Luckily, he was only on screen for a few painful seconds.

Amber and Paul were establishing a solid bond in episode one and discussing complex issues when he asked her if she would ever cheat on a partner. His question came right after Amber revealed that she was divorced after being in an unhealthy marriage. 

In response to Paul's question, Amber referenced her failed marriage. "I'd like to think that I wouldn't, but I think it would've led down to that road, just because I wasn't happy." 

Amber said that if someone cheats, there's usually an "underlying issue" though it wasn't "okay" to do to someone. 

Instead of seeing her response as realistic and vulnerable, Paul told Amber it was a "red flag" for him. She then had to backtrack and explain that she hadn't cheated and would end another relationship before it got to that point. Awkward.

Tiffany Pennywell appeared to be a woman who had her life together and was turning to "Love Is Blind" to find her soulmate, the last missing piece to her puzzle. 

So, it was confusing and a little bit gutwrenching to watch her fall asleep on the couch in her pod as Brett Brown confessed deep feelings for her. Thankfully all was forgiven and the couple became the first to get engaged.

Speaking of awkward moments between Amber and Paul, he broke up with her in episode two to exclusively pursue a relationship with Micah Lussier. Since all of the women live in the same apartment during the pods stage, Micah saw Amber crying after her final talk with Paul. 

Instead of giving her personal space, Micah told her friend Irina Solomonova to eavesdrop on Amber as she cried about the breakup to another woman in the pods. The whole scene was childish, very "Mean Girls," and difficult to watch without screaming at the screen. 

Irina and Bliss Poureetezadi were both dating Zach Goytowski on episode two, and his birthday occurred when everyone was living in the pods. To celebrate, Bliss made him cupcakes, which reminded Irina that she had forgotten Zack's birthday. Instead of coming up with her own idea, Irina proceeded to ask Bliss if she could have one of the cupcake candles. 

Everyone knows they'll be dating some of the same people as their roommates when they sign up for "Love Is Blind." That part of the experiment is awkward enough. But for Irina to bring her thoughtlessness to Bliss's attention and then ask her for help out of the situation is rude. 

It brings the awkwardness to another level, and Bliss isn't at fault. This cringy moment is all on Irina and her need for catty drama.

Irina and Zack's relationship has plenty of awkward moments on its own. 

For example, was it painful watching Zack sing Irina a love song he wrote for her on episode three? Absolutely, and yet I can't pinpoint why. He wasn't the worst singer I've ever heard, so maybe it was because the lyrics referenced a "Blarney Stone." Odd. Or, maybe it was just clear to me that Zack was making a bad decision and didn't know it yet.

Zack and Irina's first in-person meeting was awkward that it deserves its own article. 

First of all, they used the word "creepy" to describe each other multiple times. Then there was the fact that Irina said Zack looked like a cartoon character and that his gaze made her feel uncomfortable. 

She was also obviously more charmed by the engagement ring he bought for her than by Zack himself. But Zack had some cringe moments, too. I thought that Irina's signals were loud and clear while watching her react to him, so it was quite alarming to see him lean in and ask for a kiss. 

No, Zack. From the moment she saw you, Irina did not want a kiss.

Kwame Appiah and Chelsea Griffin had lots of love triangle drama in the pods, but from the moment they met in person, there appeared to be genuine love and attraction between them. 

It's possible that I'm the only one that thinks it's odd that Chelsea, who is now 31, still sleeps with a baby blanket named Baba. But more power to him for only taking a small beat before saying Baba was welcome in their bed.

Kwame appeared to only see a future with Micah until she dumped him for Paul. So, their first meeting was bound to be awkward, and their nervous laughter and insistence that they had once had a strong "foundation" and still cared about each other only added an exclamation point to that fact.

It was no surprise to me or probably any other viewer that Zack and Irina's relationship didn't survive past Mexico. One of their biggest red flags? When Irina put a pillow over her face as Zack told her that he wasn't going to chase her and thought their relationship was done.