I’m heartbroken my best friend disappeared on me after my mum’s death

DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend and I have always been inseparable but now when I need her most, she’s ghosted me.

I’m a 29-year-old man and she is 28. We’ve been friends since we were in nappies.

Ever since my mum died last year, I’ve been feeling down and have been stuck in a depression.

I haven’t been any fun to be around, but I thought I could count on her.

We’d always shown up for each other, no matter what.

Yet she’s done a disappearing act and I’m lucky if she even picks up  the phone.

I can’t understand why she would do this. I feel so alone.

DEIDRE SAYS: Being let down by a friend can be deeply hurtful, especially when you need them most.

Try to talk to her. Explain how she has hurt you and tell her how much your friendship means to you.

If she doesn’t respond then try to move on. As hurtful as this is, she is distancing herself from you and you’d be better off making more friends. 

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