My feelings for my daughter-in-law’s older sister are leaving me confused although she’s not blood relative
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M developing feelings for my daughter-in-law’s older sister.
I have become very friendly with her, but I know nothing can happen between us.
I am 57 and married. My wife is 55. We are very proud to have our daughter-in-law in our lives. She is 29.
My daughter-in-law has a sister, 33, and I have become friendly with her, spending hours talking about our mutual interests.
I’d love to get close to her, but know it would be frowned upon.
So I am wondering if it is possible to just be friendly without having an affair?
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She is not a blood relative, but I can’t work out what she is in relation to me.
I know there are various ways to love.
You can love someone like a brother or sister, or you can love someone because they have a great personality, or because you like the way they dance or laugh.
I am not having an affair. I am just confused.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s perfectly normal to fancy other people, even when you are in a happy relationship.
We can be attracted to other people for all kinds of reasons.
This young woman may be charming and attentive and, as an older man, you may be flattered, but you know your feelings can never become reality.
Keep them firmly in your head and make sure you are investing in your marriage and spending time with your wife so that you aren’t tempted to throw it all away.
My support pack Love Or Lust explains more.