My new partner is more experienced – I hope she doesn’t think I’m boring in bed
DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE only ever tried one sex position but my new partner is keen to experiment with all sorts.
I’d like to be more adventurous and don’t want her to think I’m boring in bed.
I’m 48 and my partner is 45. We’re both divorced.
My ex-wife wasn’t very interested in sex and only wanted to do it in the missionary position, if at all.
We got together when we were 16, so she was the only woman I’d slept with. I felt very sexually frustrated, which is one reason our marriage ended.
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Now I’m with someone who has a lot more experience than me. She has no idea how limited my sexual repertoire is and I’m too embarrassed to tell her.
I told a white lie and said I just couldn’t get enough of the missionary position.
How do I know what positions she’ll like?
I think I’m falling for her and want everything to be perfect.
DEIDRE SAYS: The Joy Of Sex is a good read but bear in mind that making love is not about following an instruction manual.
It’s about communication.
Ask your partner what she enjoys and let her show you. Many positions come naturally through experimenting and discovering what feels good.
Use your imagination and have fun. What works with one partner may not with another. Try to relax and enjoy getting to know your new girlfriend.
My support pack, 50 Ways to Add Fun to Sex, should help too.
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