I am always the one to initiate sex and it is causing my husband and I to fall out

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M always the one to initiate sex with my husband.

While he’s happy to go along with it if I suggest it, he never takes the lead which makes me feel so rejected.

I’m 42 and my husband’s 44. We’ve been together for 18 years.

We got into bed the other night and I thought we were going to have sex because we were intimately touching one another.

I wanted him to ask me if I wanted sex, but he didn’t.

At that moment, I became upset and eventually he asked me if I wanted it.

But the moment had passed, we’d been touching each other for ten minutes or more, and so I said, “It’s a little late now”.

He always says kissing and cuddling normally leads to sex, so why does he need to actually spell it out.

He tells me he does want me and doesn’t understand why I feel rejected when he was touching and kissing me.

He argues that if he didn’t want sex with me he wouldn’t touch or kiss me.

DEIDRE SAYS: You both want the same thing but aren’t communicating well.

What is obvious to one, is a mystery to the other.

Talk to him and remind him you need verbal reassurance.

Writing notes for him to discover or texting him a romantic message will send the signal that you’re expecting something fun.

My support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex will show him how to take the lead.