When my marriage was falling apart, you helped me pick up the pieces

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my marriage fell apart at the seams, I wrote to you for help.

My wife and I were arguing a lot because she was dealing with the menopause and I have anger issues – an explosive combination.

I’m 52 and she’s 49. We’d been married for 19 years.

I couldn’t see a way forward but you said that if we still loved each other, it was worth giving relationship counselling a shot. 

You sent your support pack Looking After Your Relationship, and recommended that we contact tavistockrelationships.org). 

You also sent the support pack  on Anger Management and  said that if my wife was having a hard time with the menopause, she  should see the GP. 

We both agreed not to give up on our marriage and started talking calmly instead of screaming at each other. 

We’ve now started counselling.

I know it will take time to get things back on track but I feel much more confident we have a future. Thanks for helping me through the low times.

DEIDRE SAYS: Marriages go through many challenges and it takes effort from both sides to help them survive. 

I’m glad you’re determined to stay together and hope you have a happy future.