I’m terrified that my wife will find out I cheated on her with a sex worker

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife is going to find out I’ve cheated sooner or later and might even catch an STI from me.

I’m 41, she is 38 and really beautiful. I’ve always had a very high sex drive and when I met her we were like every young couple – at it whenever and wherever we could.

Now we’ve settled into a routine of four or five times a week, or as often as my wife will allow us to have sex.

The thing is, it isn’t enough for me. I started using web chat rooms when my wife was out with her mates on a Friday night.

I would find my own sexual relief that way.

A friend then told me about a massage parlour he went to in town with “happy endings”.

I started going there instead and have now been five times. I use condoms but the sex workers there go with all sorts.

I’m terrified I’ll pass something on to my wife.
She and I don’t use contraception because she can’t have children. I have nightmares that she finds out and leaves me.

DEIDRE SAYS:  You clearly realise what you are doing is dangerous and downright wrong.

You need to seek help to stop this addictive behaviour before you ruin your marriage and break your wife’s heart.

On a practical level, to put your mind at rest, go and get checked out for any sexually transmitted infections through Sexwise (sexwise.org.uk).

If there are any positive results, you will have to tell your wife.

If not, then you will have had a lucky escape. But make a pact right now that you are not going to go to a sex worker again.

A good love life is about quality, not quantity, although many would say you’re a lucky guy if you are having sex four or five times a week.

My support packs called Different Sex Drives and Are You Addicted To Sex? will show you where to find support.

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