I’ve always been the girl with big boobs – I’m helping women stop the shame they feel about their chests
A BODY image coach has decided to put her experiences to good use and help fellow large-chested women stop feeling shame about their natural curves.
She said she was always the girl with big boobs and, as a consequence, had some tough times as a teenager.
“I’ve been the girl with big boobs since before I can remember,” said Sarah (@sarahinyellow).
She’s suffered for it too, but that torment has led her to the role she has today.
“This one’s for my girls who were sl*t shamed in high school for their natural curves,” she said in her post.
Sarah’s message has reached a lot of people for she has over 101,000 followers and another 4.3 million likes on her TikTok, where she aims to: “Deepen your body love.”
“A lot of my clients feel ashamed of their natural body when they have larger breasts,” she said.
So Sarah has come up with a three-step guide to help women feel pride in their bodies and not embarrassment or mortification.
“Deconstructing the shame you feel about having big boobs,” is how she described her process.
The first step was understanding the root of the shame around a naturally curvy body, explained Sarah.
“We have to look at where those emotions came from in [the] younger years.”
These could be from fashion magazines or comments from friends or family, whether they were envious or admirable.
“Regardless of the nature of the comments, [they could feel like] judgments,” bringing up feelings of discomfort and shame again.
Once these feelings were identified, it was time to: “Hold the space for those painful emotions.
“Just validating them and finding a way of working through them. Overall just showing some compassion day-to-day and recognizing that [a curvy] body was natural and nothing to be ashamed of.”
The final part of her program was Sarah’s favorite: making an action plan for body empowerment with this insecurity.
“This included conversations about boundaries that needed to be set in the future around friends and family.
“And set strategies for empowerment so [women] can say no thank you to men at the bar and men in DMs who make comments about [their] bodies.”
Sarah rounded off her post with a validation: “There is nothing wrong with how your natural body has grown and presented as a woman and you’re not showing off by simply existing.”
Commenters related to her post and at least one guy felt the need to apologise.
“Oh my God, this resonates so hard. I was saving money for a reduction surgery until I started learning about dysmorphia. Thanks for sharing,” was the heartfelt response from one follower.
Another had experienced all that she had outlined above: “I like my chest but I hate how they make me look sometimes. And I hate when people think I’m showing them to get attention.”
But there was a need to make amends from this viewer: “And I’m sorry on behalf of my gender. Some guys can be so mean to women.”