I’m so bored and lonely that I pleasure myself to kill time
DEAR DEIDRE: I AM so bored and lonely that I pleasure myself just to kill time. Life feels hopeless and I’m just going through the motions with work and socially.
I’m a 57-year-old man, who lives alone. I find it hard to talk to anyone and I can’t concentrate on anything.
There’s a long list of things I need to do around my flat but I just can’t get round to them.
Sometimes I lie on the sofa for hours, procrastinating. I don’t even watch TV.
Things have been going downhill for about four years, since I changed jobs.
I know I give off a negative energy, which turns people off me. I haven’t had any type of relationship for 15 years.
I’ve let myself go appearance-wise, which doesn’t help. I’m overweight, have dandruff and my clothes are shabby.
I don’t want to be like this but I don’t know how to climb out of the pit of despair I’ve fallen into.
Please help before I give up on life altogether.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s great you have asked for help. It sounds like you have depression.
Please make an appointment with your doctor who can help with medication or by referring you to a counsellor – or both.
My support packs on counselling and depression have lots of useful information.
Don’t give up on yourself. With help, you can look forward to a happier and more fulfilling future.
Decide to do one small positive thing today. Start your path to getting healthier with tiny steps.