My sexual urges are so out of control I’m considering buying a chastity cage
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I realised my sexual urges were getting out of control, I bought a metal chastity cage online.
I’m hoping it will stop me straying before my partner finds out I’ve been cheating on her.
I’m 27 and live with my partner, who is 26. We’ve been together for two years.
My friends have always said I can’t keep it in my pants, and they’re right.
I’ve cheated on every girlfriend I’ve ever had. But this one is special – wife material – and I don’t want to screw it up.
The problem is, I’ve already started having a wandering eye and, last month, had a one-night stand on a boys’ night out.
I have a really high sex drive, and need sex every single day to be able to function.
As a joke, a mate told me about chastity cages – metal implements you put around your penis and lock.
I think they’re supposed to be used in S&M games but secretly, I bought one for myself.
Do you think this will stop me cheating?
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DEIDRE SAYS: A chastity cage may make it impossible for you to have sex, so long as you give someone else the key to look after, but it won’t get to the root of why you cheat.
Nobody “needs” sex. You may desire it but there’s no reason why you can’t pleasure yourself instead of cheating.
It sounds likely that you have a sex addiction.
My support pack, Addicted To Sex, will tell you more and where to get help.