How do I build up my confidence to contribute to office chat with my colleagues?

APPRENTICE star and West Ham United vice-chair Karren Brady answers your careers questions.

Here, she helps an introverted reader who wants to build up her confidence and contribute to conversations with her colleagues.

Q: I started a new job about three months ago and I get on well with my colleagues.

But I’m naturally introverted and find the office chat a struggle.

Often, I won’t contribute to conversations at all – whether about personal or professional topics – and if I do, I end up stuttering, tailing off or generally sounding incoherent, which is very embarrassing.

I suspect I’m overthinking it, but I just want to be liked and show my colleagues that I like them, too. How can I overcome this and build up my confidence?

Lucy, via email

A: It’s normal to feel anxious or struggle with office conversations, especially as an introverted person.

Building confidence in social interactions takes time and practice, but it is an important skill to learn.

Start by setting small, achievable goals – perhaps aim to contribute to one conversation a day, or ask a colleague about their weekend plans in a one-to-one chat.

Then, gradually increase your level of engagement as you become more comfortable.

If your colleagues often discuss specific topics, research them beforehand, or talk about subjects where you have knowledge, as this will give you the confidence to participate.

Being introverted is a natural part of your personality, so focus on your strengths, such as being a good listener, being thoughtful and observant.

Even without contributing verbally, you can still actively listen and engage with your colleagues.

Maintain eye contact, nod and show interest in what others are saying – this can go a long way in creating relationships.

By gradually pushing your comfort zone and finding common ground, you can improve your confidence. 

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