October 2018: Pinkett Smith and Smith reveal they once had a major fight and briefly separated from each other.
On a two-part episode of "Red Table Talk," Pinkett Smith and Smith spoke about their marriage.
They recalled a major fight they had in 2011 after Pinkett Smith's 40th birthday party — a story that Smith also discussed in his 2021 memoir, "Will."
Smith had planned the party and even commissioned a "Finding Your Roots"-style documentary about his wife's lineage, which he premiered at the party.
However, according to Smith, when they got back to their hotel after the party, Pinkett Smith said she wasn't happy.
"That was the most disgusting display of ego I have ever seen in my life," Smith recalled her saying.
"This night was unlike any before, or since. The pressure cooker of our perfect picture was cracking," Smith wrote in his memoir. "Our marriage wasn't working. We could no longer pretend. We were both miserable and clearly, something had to change."
Following their fight, the couple decided to work on their problems separately.
"We agreed that Jada's happiness had to be her responsibility and my happiness had to be my responsibility. We were going to seek our distinct, innermost personal joys, and then we were going to return and present ourselves to the relationship and to each other already happy — not coming to each other begging with empty cups, demanding the other person fulfill our needs," Smith wrote.
"Neither of us wanted a divorce; we knew we loved each other, and some aspects of our union were magical. But the structure of the life that we had established was strangling both of us," he continued.