Fifth of Brits under 40 are ‘monogamish’ and over half have romped in VERY risky place, Sun’s autumn sex survey reveals
IT’S time to get cosy with a loved one . . . or even multiple lovers.
Our exclusive autumn sex survey reveals 40 per cent of under-35s are choosing to get busy with multiple partners.
We polled 2,000 men and women aged 18 or over to find out how societal norms are evolving.
While our research show older generations believe in sticking to one partner, many youngsters are embracing a “monogamish” relationship – and one in ten have enjoyed a polyamorous partnership.
A monogamish relationship is where you are with one partner but are allowed to express yourself sexually with others – but only with your primary partner’s consent.
Polyamory – which is on the rise among 18 to 35-year-olds – means having multiple romantic and typically sexual relationships, with the consent of everyone involved.
Once hailed as the cornerstone of commitment, monogamy is facing an existential crisis in the age of social media, dating apps, instant hook-ups and AI.
Other survey results showed that regardless of the cold weather, one in ten people were likely to cheat all year round, while four per cent said the chilly climate made them more likely to stray.
Here, Sun sexpert Georgette Culley reveals all the scandalous results while three readers tell us their sauciest secrets . . .
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‘He cheated on me with an AI sexbot’
STUDENT Hettie Purbrick, 22, from Brynna, South Wales, ended a relationship when she found sexy messages between her ex-boyfriend and an AI bot.
She says: “I’D been dating Ryan* for about four months when I discovered the messages.
Ryan used to be really attentive but he had become distant and guarded his phone.
I wondered if he had met someone else as he was so obsessed with his mobile and seemed to always be talking to someone.
I feared he was cheating on me.
So one night after dinner I grabbed his phone when it was unlocked and looked at the messages.
I was gobsmacked with what I found.
He wasn’t talking to another woman – he was sexting an AI “sexbot”.
I found messages from “sext adventure” and “sl*t bot”.
I felt completely humiliated. How could he prefer talking to a bot over talking to me?
Crushed, I ended it there and then.
After all, we had only been dating for four months, and should have been in the honeymoon phase, so how could he cheat?
And with a bot!
He said it was a dare from his mates and that I was over-reacting as she “wasn’t even real”.
She may not have been “real” but that doesn’t make it any less painful.
Two years on, I’m in a happy relationship and we now laugh about my ex.
Fortunately, my new man doesn’t need to get his kicks from AI cheating.”
* Name changed.
‘Sex life is diverse, we are so fulfilled’
PERSONAL trainer Linda Partick, 29, and her husband Nathan, 27, an events manager, from West London, have been together for ten years.
The pair say the secret to their successful marriage is being monogamish.
Linda says: “WE started opening up our relationship after I expressed a desire to sleep with other people, especially women.
Nathan knows I am bisexual but we were monogamous so we never experimented. In 2019, we discussed becoming “monogamish”.
Unlike polyamorous couples, we didn’t want to have relationships with others, but we did want to open up our sex life.
We attended our first sex party and set clear boundaries.
These included never playing separately, and engaging with women and couples only.
It was nerve-racking at first but it keeps our sex life diverse and we feel fulfilled.
But the best part is the sex we have together afterwards – often known as “reclaiming” sex.
We are so passionate, it’s the best!
There’s no jealousy in our marriage and we believe it is the secret to success.
We now have our own podcast The Playroom X, where we share our experiences.
Nathan says: “I found opening up our marriage difficult at first as I was scared Linda might leave me for someone else.
But I chose to trust her. It has made us stronger.
Now that I get to see who she really is, I love her more than ever.”