Our threesome resulted in the biggest shock for everyone involved
DEAR DEIDRE: I stupidly agreed to a threesome with my best friend and boyfriend – and now she’s pregnant with my bloke’s kid.
I’m a woman of 30 and my friend is 31. We grew up together.
She always wanted a threesome and I said I was game with the right person. But it certainly wasn’t at the forefront of my mind.
Then when I got together with my boyfriend, who is 33, she made it clear she thought he would be our perfect third person.
Eventually I agreed to speak to my partner.
He was sceptical at first but then we had an evening at our flat and my friend and I worked on him — and we all ended up in bed together.
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Life then went back to normal. But then on Christmas Eve, my friend turned up unannounced.
She got a pregnancy test out of her handbag and showed me the positive result.
I was horrified when the penny dropped that it was my boyfriend’s baby.
My boyfriend and I expected her to opt for a termination. And my boyfriend was willing to pay for the procedure.
But she said no. She said she had wanted to be a mum for a long time.
She told me that I could hardly get upset because I went along with the threesome, but I thought she was on the Pill.
Now she keeps sending me pictures of flats or houses we could all rent together.
It’s the last thing I want. How would that work out? She’s doing my head in.
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DEIDRE SAYS: As shocking and unwelcome as your friend’s news is, I’m afraid the decision over the pregnancy should rest with her.
I’m sorry but this situation may well break your friendship, and perhaps your relationship too.
Talk to your boyfriend about how he’s going to deal with things.
In an ideal world, a child will have two loving parents and, at the very least, he will need to support this child financially.
My support pack called Unplanned Pregnancy will show you all where to find support and advice.
Having unprotected sex also risks jeopardising your sexual health, so please encourage everyone involved to visit their local sexual health clinic to be tested.