I’m super busty and looking for a wedding guest dress – but people say my choice is ‘giving main character syndrome’
A FULLER-BUST wedding guest has been warned to reconsider her choice of outfit after revealing the event has a black tie dress code.
She explained that her options for what to wear are limited due to her curvy figure and desire not to buy anything that will need alterations.
She took to Reddit’s Wedding Attire Approval forum to share a photo from the Fashion Nova website of the dress that she planned to wear.
“Hey all, this will be my first black tie event!” she said.
“Is this an appropriate dress?
“I’m super busty/curvy so my options are limited when it comes to dresses fitting without needing a ton of alterations.”
Fashion Nova’s Camilla Tulle maxi dress in black has a 3.5-star rating on its website.
The feather trim dress is sold in sizes ranging from XS to 3X for $80, discounted from $100.
It features padded bra cups, a hidden back zipper, and a bodysuit lining.
The wedding guest didn’t reveal how she planned to style the dress, but photos of the model show it paired with strappy sandals and large hoop earrings.
An overwhelming number of responses to the post argued the dress was inappropriate and accused her of trying to steal attention from the bride.
“Noooo. This is giving main character syndrome,” one person wrote.
“Honestly, not appropriate,” another agreed.
“Not trying to be mean, but I guess it’s better to hear it from a stranger on the internet than a loved one on or after the wedding.
“That dress is so wrong in more ways than one. It’s not black tie, it’s tulle which gives off bridal vibes and it looks cheap.
“All I can see is ‘trying to upstage the bride but failing miserably because I’m cheap.’”
“This pretty much yells prom,” a third chimed in. “Layers of tulle (which say bridal even in black) PLUS marabou shoulders???”
A fourth member of the forum confessed she wouldn’t wear the dress but tried to reassure the wedding guest that she should go ahead if she’d made up her mind.
“I think the issue is that guests should not wear anything that will overshadow or draw attention away from the couple getting married,” she wrote.
“They are the stars of the day.
“The question of whether or not this is appropriate really depends on the other people attending.
“Will other guests be wearing similar outfits or more traditional or conservative styles?
“For a wedding, you will want to just kind of blend into the crowd, not stand out.
“People in this sub often express hard and fast rules about what is and isn’t appropriate (calling outfits too white, too bridal, too attention-seeking, etc.).
“But honestly, you shouldn’t feel the need to hide your personality to meet arbitrary standards.
“Is this dress something I would wear to a wedding?
“No, because it would never fit me AND I’m old enough to be your grandmother.
“But if you are 100% sure that you would fit in with how your crowd will be dressed, go for it.”