Harriette Cole: How can I get a house and a car if I don’t have enough money?
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have the desire to purchase a house and a car, but I am limited by financial constraints. I am uncertain about how to effectively manage my limited funds to achieve these goals.
One of the main challenges I face is the small amount of money available to allocate toward purchasing a house and a car. Both of these expenses require significant financial commitments, and it can be overwhelming to figure out how to make it work within my current financial situation.
It’s important for me to manage my funds wisely and make informed decisions to ensure long-term financial stability.
— Securing the Future
DEAR SECURING THE FUTURE: Now is the time to look at the big picture and strategize on how to make it all manifest.
Choose one goal at a time. Perhaps buying a car can go first as it is less expensive and may help you to eventually purchase a home.
Research used cars to see which are most affordable and durable. Buy the most cost-effective and safe car you find. Then consider how you can use it to earn more money. Perhaps add a second job as a ride-share service driver. Adding a few hours a week to your schedule can yield more income that you save toward purchasing a house.
As you save for the house, look for a two-family unit so that you can rent out part of the house as you also live there.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Juggling work commitments and the responsibilities of caring for a child can be an immense challenge.
On one hand, I have professional obligations that require my time, energy and focus. On the other hand, I have the critical role of nurturing and providing for my child, which demands attention and care.
Finding a way to successfully navigate both realms can often feel like an impossible task. It has been a demanding and overwhelming experience, and I am uncertain about how to continue.
Can you please offer some insights on how I can manage these responsibilities effectively?
— Out of Balance
DEAR OUT OF BALANCE: Take a deep breath. Accept the fact that this is hard for every parent, and most figure out a way forward.
Being organized with your time will help tremendously. Keep a calendar that includes your work duties and your child care responsibilities. Write down everything that you can so that you are aware of what has to be done. Check off all completed tasks the moment you finish them.
Enlist support whenever possible. That doesn’t mean giving up responsibilities. It means do your very best all the time and be of help to others. Then when you need help, others will want to support you.
When you are at home, make your child your priority — but don’t forget yourself. Learn to take power naps. You nap when your child does, at least part of the time.
Create meaningful moments with your child. You may not be there all the time, but be sure to engage in creative, memorable ways that assure a positive impact.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.