My husband refuses to go in my parents house because they are smokers
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I go to see my parents with my husband, he stands at their door refusing to come in because they’re smokers.
My parents are in their 70s. They chain smoke and you leave their house smelling like an ashtray.
When I get back in the car after visiting them, my husband will open all the windows immediately and tell me I stink.
It’s all completely over the top. If I try to put the car window back up, he puts it straight back down.
He insists, “his car, his rules”. Still, I want to see my parents.
I’m feeling drained. What can I do to solve this situation?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Can you not meet your parents for a walk or in a cafe where they can go out to smoke?
Your husband is being overbearing and while it’s understandable that he doesn’t like the smell of smoke, he needs to appreciate your parents are important to you.
Tell him staying in touch with them is non-negotiable.
My support pack Standing Up For Yourself should help.