‘You sound very spoilt’ people say as mum moans her husband ‘only’ bought her chocolate & flowers for Mother’s Day
GIFT giving can be tricky, but most of us would say that it is thought that counts.
Whilst most women would be happy with a handmade card from their kids, one mum has sparked intense debate by moaning about her Mother’s Day gift.
If you’ve been disappointed by a present recently, you’ll know how hard it is to try and hide how you feel in front of your loved ones.
Rather than keeping everything bottled up inside, one mum candidly shared how upset she was on Mumsnet and asked others for advice.
Originally posted in the ‘Am I being Unreasonable’ thread, she wrote: “I’m a stay at home mum to a 2 year old. [My] darling husband works hard and I completely appreciate what he does for us… [but] I’m a little annoyed that he’s barely acknowledged Mother’s Day.”
Though she’d received chocolates and flowers the night before, her spouse had then been ‘quiet’ and ‘not even acknowledged’ Mothers’ Day.
To make matters even worse, she revealed that he hadn’t gotten their daughter to make a card – despite the tot still being very small.
“I know ‘I’m not his mother’ but I do everything – all childcare, housework, nursery stuff, cooking, organising days out/holidays,” she wrote, asking: “Am I being unreasonable for expecting a little more effort?”
Less than 24 hours after being posted, the user has received over 172 replies with users being deeply divided over the mum’s reaction.
Many claimed that she was being ungrateful, with some outraged commenters claiming that the mum was ‘spoiled’.
One even wrote: “He’s got you flowers and chocolate! You’re a stay at home parent – so of course you do lots at home. That’s your actual job. You sound very spoilt.”
“What the hell has happened to people that they expect a song and dance over everything? Just what do people expect these days?” commented another, saying that they received a handmade card and a small gift when their kids were little.
Others also sided with the anonymous woman’s spouse and questioned what her partner could have done differently.
“The only thing I think he has done wrong is not help your child write a card, that would have been nice,” said a third: “Flowers and chocolate are more than I got until the children were old enough to do things for themselves, and I did everything you described in the home on top of working.”
Calling the annual celebration ‘overhyped’, they added: “I’d rather have a little bit of appreciation often than a single grand gesture once a year.”
Some, however, were more supportive of the stay at home mum and suggested that the flowers might not be the only issue.
“I get the feeling you feel underappreciated in general though,” argued a fourth, saying: “As a SAHM I do think it’s your role to do the biggest proportion of the things that you mention but if he isn’t doing his fair share at weekends then he is.”
Another disgruntled mum wrote: “I try not to get stuck into men bashing posts but I do agree he could have at least got the kids excited about mother’s day and got them to write a card.”
Some even urged the original poster to be more decisive, saying: “He wants you to do what you want to do. Tell him. Go for brunch or lunch. Go for a walk. Lie in bed with your chocolates and Netflix. Tell him what you want.”
We just hope Mother’s Day goes more smoothly next year.