My big life change has turned into a huge disaster
DEAR DEIDRE: My big move across the country, to start a new job and move in with my partner has been a huge disaster.
Having left all of my family behind, I’m not coping with the challenges that have been thrown my way.
I don’t know what’s come over me. My partner is divorced with a son and daughter and we’re hoping to buy our first home within a year.
But for now, while we save, we’re living in a tiny studio apartment and we’re snapping at each other because we are completely on top of each other.
I’m an assistant to a female director in a new company. But it’s less ‘girl power’ and more ‘bullying boss’. She’s very difficult and rude. The money is good but she’s vile to me and everyone around her.
I’ve been feeling so low the last few months that I’ve started self-harming – I don’t know what’s come over me.
My partner is lovely but I’m lost without my family.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your workplace should be a supportive environment. We can all feel stressed at times, but your situation is affecting your mental health so something has to change.
Please talk to your boyfriend and doctor soon. The quicker you get support the quicker you can start your recovery.
If your company has an human resources (HR) department, talk to them about your working environment. If it hasn’t, then talk to Acas (acas.org.uk, 0300 123 1100).
They provide free advice on workplace issues.
My support pack on self-harm will show you where to find further emotional support.