Should I move in with my ex even though she doesn’t want me back?

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my girlfriend broke up with me I was heartbroken, but I knew I needed to work on myself.

Now, months later, she’s seen my progress and has offered to let me move in with her – but only as a friend.

I’m 28, she’s 27 and we were together for three years. 

During the last year of our relationship, I admittedly treated her very poorly and constantly started arguments. 

We had arranged to move into a house together when she finally had enough and broke up with me.

It was the wake-up call I needed. I started therapy and taking medication for my mental health. 

I’d been sofa surfing for months when she reached out and offered for me to move in with her.

She said she could see I was doing better and wanted to help, but that I shouldn’t get my hopes up for us getting back together.

Now I’m torn about what to do. I need a place to live but I’m worried moving in together will only hurt me more.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s clear that she still cares for you and wants to support you, but I’d be wary of moving in together.

If she just wants to keep things platonic, consider how living in close proximity to her will impact you.

While it’s possible you could rekindle, if you don’t, living with her will only hold you back. You need to put your mental wellbeing first and think about what’s best for you. 

Read my support packs, Relationship MOT and Moving On to help you.