I went on a second date with a guy who was dodgy about the bill – his move after I put down cash gave me the ick
A NEW Yorker has said navigating the city’s dating scene is not for the faint-hearted.
She’s tried it, has survived it, and now has stories to dine out on it.
But her second date with a guy turned strange when he was dodgy about the bill.
After finishing their meal, she put her cash contribution on the table but his next move just gave her the ick.
As a result, this romance was doomed and there would be no third date.
Taylor Paré (@paretay) has 63,000 followers on TikTok, where she shares her love of “storytimes and spilling tea NYC.”
She shared her unfortunate dating tale in her post but was aware it might be controversial.
“I think I just got the ick from the guy I’m seeing,” she said.
But commenters were torn about who was right in this dating scenario.
After her experience, she said the New York dating scene was not for the “faint-hearted.”
She had already been on a couple of dates with this guy, but when the check arrived he “acted really dodgy.”
It appeared he was not splashing the cash. While she was willing to pay her half, she still felt he was being cheap.
“I’m unemployed, he has a lucrative job. He ordered a bunch of stuff off the menu that I can’t eat,” she complained.
But when the bill came, Taylor said he barely acknowledged it.
She, however, put her half down, $20. When it looked like he was not paying his share, she said there was no more cash in her purse.
Only then, she said, did he take out his Platinum American Express card and return her $20.
“He should at least give his half after he made me buy the second round on the first date. It’s super lame and unattractive,” she said.
But she worried that she was being shallow for thinking this was a “deal breaker.”
There was a huge reaction to her post with over 3,000 comments.
And it was a very lively comments section.
Dating Etiquette
Tradition still plays a role in the dating game still exists, but the rules are changing. Here are some guidelines
Who pays the bill:
- Whoever initiated the date, generally pays for both meals
- If the date is successful, then offer to pay for the next one
- If it reaches a third date, agree to split bills down the middle for future meetings
- If your date insists on paying all the time, that’s their choice but indicate you would like to treat them occasionally too
“I don’t want anyone who isn’t generous. Generous with his money, time, all of it,” said one person.
“He is cheap but so are you. The bill was $40 which isn’t a huge amount,” figured a second person.
“If he knows you’re unemployed and still tries to make you pay that’s a huge red flat in my opinion,” wrote a third person.
“I split every bill with my boyfriend from date one. Taking money out of the equation helped me see my attraction more clearly and deeply,” was the experience of one viewer.
“Deal breaker is the dodgy behavior and zero communication,” wrote another.