My boss is the perfect woman for me

DEAR DEIDRE: The woman I’ve fallen for is perfect in every way – except she’s my boss.

I don’t know if I should tell her how I feel. I think she likes me too, but I don’t want to wreck our working relationship.

I’m 32 and she’s 34. I’ve been friends with her for several years. I was in a relationship when we first met and never thought of her in a romantic way.

Last year, she recommended me for a job in the same design firm she works at.

I got it and, over the past few months, I’ve started to have very strong feelings for her. I think about her at night and find myself waking up excited to see her in the office.

I take more care over my appearance, even putting on the after-shave she once said she liked.

Despite being my boss, she never acts like my manager. We get on so well, have a laugh and can talk about anything.

She’s single, however I’m scared that if I say something, it will ruin our friendship and I’ll have to leave my job.

DEIDRE SAYS: This is a tricky situation.

Many people meet their partners at work, but some employers frown on workplace relationships and it could cause problems with colleagues.

So for greater clarity, check your company policy on office relationships.

Also think about what might happen if you got together and it went wrong.

You could test the waters by asking, generally, how she feels about office romances. Be sure to consider all possibilities before making a move.