I love my girlfriend but I’ve grown bored of our dull sex life – it’s always the same position

DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my girlfriend with all of my heart but I’ve grown bored of our vanilla sex life.

All I want is to spice things up every now and again, but every time I try to talk to her about it she shuts me down.

I’m 35, she’s 32 and we’ve been together for three years.

Admittedly our sex life has never been very exciting, but I always believed it was something we could explore as our relationship grew.

However, years later we’re doing the same old missionary position and never trying anything adventurous or spontaneous.

At least before we used to engage in more kissing and foreplay but she’s even become reluctant to do that.

Every time I try to speak to her about experimenting or trying new things she always closes down and avoids the conversation.

I’m starting to feel bitter about our sex life and it’s beginning to affect our relationship.

DEIDRE SAYS: The longer you both ignore this the worse it’ll get. Your feelings of frustration and resentfulness will grow, ultimately dooming your relationship.

Find a moment to speak to her about how you are feeling. Tell her how much you fancy her and love being intimate with her, but that you want and need more.

I’m sending you my support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex to help spice things up.