Every time I try to leave my narcissist boyfriend reels me back in
DEAR DEIDRE: I’m worried my boyfriend is a narcissist and I’m not sure how much more of him I can take.
I’m 34, he’s 36 and we’ve been together for six months.
When we first started dating he was so charming, charismatic, and kind. He did everything he could to make me feel special, from planning romantic dates to surprising me with flowers.
Since we made it official, he’s turned into someone I don’t recognise.
Suddenly he had a lack of interest in my life and shied away from showing me any affection.
He no longer wanted to go on dates and started cancelling our plans last minute. Whenever I tried to discuss it he would instantly be on the defensive.
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I’m beginning to notice he refuses to take any responsibility and turns the blame on me.
Every time I get to the verge of leaving him it’s almost as if he can tell and hooks me back in with gifts and mind-blowing sex.
I know that he’s no good for me, but I feel stuck.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Unfortunately, narcissists don’t change and generally become worse the more you stand up to them.
He love-bombed you early on, a familiar pattern used by narcissists to create a strong bond and even addictive relationship.
Now he’s showing his true colours. Please think about what he’s actually bringing to your relationship.
My guess is, very little, in which case, please accept you’d be better apart.
My support pack called Addictive Love may help you to decide.