My partner is coming in and out of my life like a yo-yo

DEAR DEIDRE: After more than twenty years together, my partner has met a new woman, and now comes in and out of my life like a yo-yo.

While I know I deserve much better, I don’t know how I’d manage without him so I put up with this unsettling situation.

I’m 50, my partner is 54 and until a few months ago we had a happy relationship.

Everything changed when out of nowhere he packed a bag and told me he was going to stay with a friend.

The next day I heard a female voice on the phone and realised this friend was, in fact, another woman.

Since then our relationship has turned into a constant toxic back and forth.

One minute he’s living with her and ignoring me, the next he’s at my front door begging for forgiveness.

The insecurity I feel is wrecking my mental health.

I can’t stand the idea of them together, but the thought of letting him go tears me apart.

DEIDRE SAYS: You still love him, even though he treats you so badly.

However, you need to remind yourself that if he really cared for you, he would not come and go when it suits him.