I’m a straight man but I have a burning desire for feminine men

DEAR DEIDRE: Until recently I considered myself to be a straight man and only ever had eyes for women.

Yet now I’m finding myself attracted to feminine men, and I can’t quite wrap my head around it.

I’m a 36-year-old single man and until now I had never questioned my sexuality.

All my relationships have been with women, and while I’ve always been sexually open, the thought of being with a man had never crossed my mind.

Yet over the past few weeks, I’ve started to experience some conflicting feelings after seeing videos of feminine men online.

From their mannerisms to their makeup and long painted nails, I was drawn to them.

While I’d never found men attractive before, I suddenly felt a burning desire like never before.

Ever since I’ve not been able to get the thought out of my head and I’m struggling to understand where these feelings have come from.

I’ve even had several very sexy dreams, which have troubled me.
I am so confused. Does this mean that I could be gay?

DEIDRE SAYS: For a lot of people, sexuality can be very fluid, and it’s not uncommon to be attracted to someone of your own gender at some point.

While labelling yourself isn’t always helpful, it could be possible that you are bisexual.

My support pack, Bisexual Questions, will help you think this through.
If you want to talk through your feelings, contact Switchboard LGBT (0300 330 0630).