I was so attracted to my new lover – but now I’m realising it’s just a rebound effect

DEAR DEIDRE: At 64 years old, you’d think I would know better but I’ve completely humiliated myself by becoming utterly obsessed with the first man I dated after separating from my husband.

I was married for 38 years but my husband and I grew apart so when he suggested we go our different ways, I readily agreed.

That was nearly two years ago and I recently met another man, who I was really attracted to.

He is 65. He told me I was beautiful and he really liked me too.

I felt there was a huge attraction between us, although he made it clear he didn’t want a relationship.

But the first time we had sex I got really drunk and it was a disaster.

Since then I’ve been doing all the chasing, while he seems completely disinterested.

I would just love to go back to the beginning and start again. I think we could have been great.

DEIDRE SAYS:  You’re not the first to underestimate the effects of alcohol – and won’t be the last.

There’s no point beating yourself up about it, what’s done is done.

This man made it clear he wasn’t interested in anything serious from the start.

Nothing you do, or say can change that – not even turning back time would make a difference.

Put this down to experience and start to focus on the life you want.

My support pack Moving On will help you.