What Kids Can Bring to Conversations
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“During most of my early adulthood, philosophy had little appeal to me,” Elissa Strauss wrote in 2022. “As long as I treated people mostly kindly, what did it matter what I thought about right and wrong, or the nature of knowledge or the universe?”
“Until, of course, I had my first child.” Strauss’s son Augie “wanted to know things”—including the sorts of things she couldn’t find much practical use for when she tried taking Philosophy 101 in college. Kids, she soon realized, are instinctive philosophers.
Today’s newsletter takes a look at how kids speak and how to speak to them in moments of curiosity, joy, and conflict.
On Talking With Kids
Want to Understand Socrates and Sartre? Talk With Your Kid.
By Elissa Strauss
A new book asks us to consider that children might have a natural aptitude for grappling with our deepest philosophical questions. (From 2022)
How a Negotiation Expert Would Bargain With a Kid
By Joe Pinsker
Some tactical suggestions for managing volatile, sometimes nonsensical negotiation partners
Is It Wrong to Tell Kids to Apologize?
By Stephanie H. Murray
Some parents argue that forcing children to say they’re sorry is useless or even harmful. The reality is more nuanced.
Still Curious?
- The one big thing you can do for your kids: The research shows that you probably have less effect on your kids than you think—with one major exception: Your love will make them happy.
- Mister Rogers had a simple set of rules for talking to children: The TV legend possessed an extraordinary understanding of how kids make sense of language.
Other Diversions
P.S.
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— Isabel