My boyfriend is leaving EVERYTHING to his ex – she’s already a millionaire & but I don’t want to seem like a gold-digger
A WOMAN is sharing her dilemma after revealing her wealthy man is leaving everything to his former ”millionaire” wife.
The anonymous woman explained that the duo started dating a little over a year after he’d divorced from his ex-wife, whom he shares two kids with.
”He is quite wealthy and I am financially independent – as much as I can be,” she shared on Mumsnet.
”Obviously have my own job and support myself, don’t ‘need’ anyone.”
The couple, who’ve had a relationship for three years now, have discussed buying a place together and moving in – something the man can do ”outright” if he really wanted to.
”Whilst I can indeed put down a nice deposit, the places we have in mind are different due to our budgets.
”I said if we were to go 50/50, it would have to accommodate my budget – which isn’t millions, but it’s enough for a nice place.”
It’s not just the future property the two have discussed – but also inheritance in case something was to happen.
According to the woman, her partner – a former estate agent – has insisted ”everything” would be going not only to his children, but also the ex-wife.
”I asked if there was a financial order in his divorce and if everything was actually finalised.
”I asked this multiple times to be sure. He said yes. His ex is VERY well taken care of,” she said, adding this was ”many, many, many millions”.
Whilst she agreed that ”his children should inherit”, the Mumsnet user felt a certain way that she would be getting nothing, especially as ” everything” she has would be ”going to him”.
”When I asked about practical things like where I should locate the paperwork in the event of something happening (as he knows where my paperwork is), his response was: ‘Oh, Jane will know and will take care of that! She will know how to handle everything’.”
Since then, she opened up in the post, it’s become ”really awkward to talk about [it],” as the woman didn’t want to come across as a ”gold- digger”.
”I would expect to be on the deed of the house – as I of course, will be paying for it too, but obviously can’t risk being homeless in the event of something going badly wrong.
”Each time I’ve broached the topic, he evades talking about it.”
Seeking advice and opinions, she wondered what fellow Mumsnet users thought of the situation and whether the partner’s actions were ”weird”.
One urged the woman to avoid buying a property together, as the man was a walking ”red flag”.
Who Has The Right Of Inheritance?
”Unlike other countries inheritance laws that enforce ‘’forced heirship’’ (where a portion of the deceased’s estate is automatically passed to their protected heirs, regardless of the deceased’s wishes,) inheritance rules in the UK stipulate that you can leave your assets or ‘’estate’’ to any individual or organisation you desire,” explained the experts at Freeman Jones.
”To do this, you will need to make a valid will which explains how you want your money, property, and possessions to be handled by your chosen executor. If you create a clear and valid will, then you can choose who inherits what.
”Without a will, however, determining who has the right of inheritance can be more complicated.”
”I think this red flag is big enough to halt moving in together. He evades the question. That’s not good.”
Another agreed, advising the woman to have a discussion with him.
”I think you need to sit down and be open about this.”
Someone else chimed in: ”All his money should go to his children.
If I were you, I would not leave your money to him.
”You haven’t been going out that long. Surely you would leave it to a family member.”
A fourth shared their thoughts, writing: ”Well you don’t have to leave everything to him.
”He’s financially well off, you don’t have children together so I’d leave it to a family member or even just a charity of your choosing.”