Bride and groom spark debate with ‘controlling’ drinks rule for their big day & people slate them for ‘playing police’
A BRIDE and groom have sparked a fierce debate with a drinks rule for their wedding that has seen them accused of “playing police”.
The pair decided against having an open bar for their big day, instead settling on a “drink ticket system”.
This system meant that each of their of-age guests would receive a ticket for two drinks – and is strictly forbidden from transferring any unused ticket to anyone else at the event.
In addition, guests also had to order and consume their drinks from their “seats at their assigned table”.
In a post on Reddit, the bride explained that her venue had told her that similar ticket systems have been in place at other nuptials, leading her to believe it wasn’t “a big deal” to put it in place at hers.
But her decision to draw attention to the system on the wedding invitations led to her receiving some less than complimentary messages from invited guests.
Explaining she’d been “called a lot of rude things”, the bride said she’d also been called an “a-hole” and a “bridezilla”.
But she insisted: “I come from an alcoholic heavy family and simply don’t feel comfortable being around people who are drinking heavily.”
So she had hoped the information about the system would be accepted as a “classy heads up” by guests.
However, people in the comments section were quick to tell the bride that the outraged guests were perfectly within their rights to be shocked by the ticketed plan.
“Your ticket plan went from moderately novel to aggressively controlling the more you explained it,” one person wrote.
“Are you going to have security tackle Aunt Joan if she gets out of her chair with a glass of chard in her hand?”
And while others didn’t think the ticket system was a bad idea, they strongly disagreed with the bride’s rule that the drink tickets are non-transferrable.
“You playing police about how and where they drink, additionally stating that the tickets are ‘non transferrable’ – that’s ridiculous,” one person raged.
“If 90-year-old Aunt Betty doesn’t want to have ANY alcohol and is happy to give her tickets to Uncle Joe, then why not?” another questioned.
As a third reckoned that the rule could “ruin the whole vibe of the event”.
“I like having a few drinks at a wedding.” they added.
“Especially if it’s spaced out over 5-6 hour event and there is food, two drinks is nothing.
Are wedding rules right or wrong?
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous deputy editor and bride-to-be
When I was planning my wedding this August, the idea of sending out a list of ‘rules’ never once popped into my mind.
The first two this bride created seem fair enough, but also like they should be common sense, and then they just descend into chaos.
Insisting on “approving” all photos before they go out and ordering guests to stick to a “minimalist” colour palette seems pretty OTT to me.
And rudely telling guests to leave you alone when you arrive at the ceremony and eat your dinner – while also ordering them to come say goodbye before leaving – is a bit mad.
I don’t know how many guests this bride is inviting, but everyone knows weddings can get a bit manic. Of course it’d be nice to greet and say goodbye to everyone personally, but I’ve come to peace with the fact that probably won’t happen.
Like with everything in life, once you get yourself in a tizz about everything happening a certain way, you’re basically setting yourself up for failure.
I don’t pretend to be the most laid-back bride ever and I can’t promise I won’t get a bit stressed if we’re running loads behind on the morning of my wedding, but this is just massively over the top.
I agree with the commenters, I wouldn’t bother going.
“Alcohol is a social lubricant and dance assist.
“I maybe wouldn’t even go.”
And someone else urged the couple to reconsider the drink rule, and maybe think about having an entirely dry wedding instead.