I hate my husband after having a baby – all we do is argue, I’m ready for a divorce but a fear is holding me back
A FED-UP woman has opened up about her divorce concerns after having a baby.
She explained that a fear held her back from ending her marriage.
Allie shared her relationship problems in a post.
“I hate my husband,” she said.
“Since [the] baby, all we do is argue. Nothing gets resolved.
“He says I nag and lecture him. He needs to do certain things differently, and there’s no way for him to know if I don’t tell him.”
She explained that their differences have caused animosity and a desire to leave.
“I feel like I hate him,” she said.
“The only thing stopping me from pursuing a divorce is that I can’t imagine only having my baby half the time. (Baby is seven months old).”
Allie added that she couldn’t help but feel stuck.
“I hate my life right now and feel like I’ve made a terrible choice being with him and having a baby,” she said.
“And now things are just out of my control, and I am sad all the time and just stuck.”
Well-intentioned viewers shared their advice for next steps.
Some believed that her marriage was still salvageable.
“Communication is really the key. Try to keep calm when talking to him(and vice versa),” said one commenter.
“You could even use therapy to save your marriage if you want to, of course.”
I hate my life right now and feel like I’ve made a terrible choice being with him and having a baby.
Allie
Moms with more experience expressed empathy and shared their wisdom.
“The first year is so hard! I’ve had these feelings too,” said one.
“Is there a way for you two to spend some non-baby related quality time?
“I find for my relationship it helps us to remember we actually like each other when we reconnect doing things we used to do pre-baby just the two of us (for us it’s: pool & drinks at the pub, movies at the cinema, paint night, etc).
“The fun and reconnecting also reminds us we’re on the same team.
“If he’s open to it couples counselling may help.”