Married supermarket security guard was a real gent when he cheated

DEAR DEIDRE: I was propositioned by the security guard in my local supermarket.

I caved in and gave him my number and two days later, we had sex at my flat.

I’m a woman of 28 and I’ll sleep with anyone who gives me attention. Mostly it’s one-night stands. I have never had a proper relationship with anyone. This guy seemed different though.

He came out with the whole, “It’s complicated…” patter but admitted he was married and said he was 31.

He treated me well. He was a gentleman and was kind. Nobody has done that to me before.

They normally want sex and then I don’t see them for dust. Half the guys don’t even know my name.

I know this guy is married but would it be OK if I called by the supermarket again to ask if he wanted to meet up? If his marriage is over, I could have a chance of being with somebody.

DEIDRE SAYS: This isn’t a great idea, no. This man has a wife so he’s not that kind – he’s a cheat.

If you did have an affair you would always be second best, it would complicate your life and you’re worth so much more than having a no-strings relationship.

This guy may have given you the taste of how you’d like to be treated, with somebody who is interested in you as a person. Please don’t mistake sex for love.

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