‘Take a hard look’ bridezilla erupts at friend for ‘tactless’ £80 wedding gift… and she got a bridal shower present too
A FURIOUS bridezilla has sparked a debate after sending a £80 gift back to her wedding guest.
Instead of buying a card to fill with cash for the newlyweds, the guest allegedly transferred $100 – or £80 – a couple days after the nuptials, a move that the bride dubbed an ”after thought”.
Taken aback by the present, the woman – who also returned the money to the guest – decided to confront the person, and the text exchange has left everyone divided.
”Hey so I got your $100 gift a couple of days after the wedding and honestly… kinda shocked and bummed about it,” the bride said.
”Feels a bit disrespectful.”
The woman went on: ”Not only were you late to my ceremony, but the absence of a card just added to it.
”Your recent birthday invite asked for $225 each and I would’ve done it without a second thought if I weren’t getting married.
”Yet, receiving just $100 for MY WEDDING felt like an afterthought and a bit tactless.
”I returned the money because keeping it felt more hurtful than the initial disappointment.
”I suggest taking a hard look at your relationships. If this is how you value friendships, it’s genuinely disheartening.”
After receiving and reading the message, the baffled guest replied, thinking she hadn’t done anything wrong.
The response – which was shared on the popular forum Reddit – also saw the guest reveal that she had travelled internationally to attend the big day.
”Hi, I’m so sorry you feel that way, it was not my intention at all!
”As a single person who does not drink, I’ve always given $100 as a wedding gift to my friends, in addition to shower gifts.
”Additionally, I truly thought the money transfer was the preferred method since it was what was on the registry when I checked.
”I arranged my international travel specifically so that I was able to be in town for your wedding as originally, I was not going to be.”
Why it’s time to ditch wedding favours once and for all
By Josie Griffiths, Deputy Digital Fabulous Editor and bride-to-be
Josie Griffiths said: When was the last time you spotted something in a shop window or browsed past it online and thought “that would be the perfect gift for 120 of my closest friends, work colleagues, relatives and boyfriend’s mate’s partners I barely know”?
I’ll tell you when, never, because there is NO universal gift everyone is going to love – unless you want to bankrupt yourself buying Rolexes and Tiffany jewellery, and even then they wouldn’t be to everyone’s taste.
So why do brides still pile the stress (and expense) of wedding favours on top of everything else we have to organise?
I’ve been to dozens of weddings over the past five years so when I got engaged, I already had a mental list of dos and don’ts for my own big day, and ditching wedding favours was firmly on it.
The cost of buying an individual present for everyone coming is huge, meaning many couples try and keep it in the under-a-fiver category.
But the reality is no-one wants a cheap, ill-thought-out keepsake – they’d probably rather one more free drink from the bar.
It’s not only that, wedding handbags are notoriously small, with no room to stuff an unexpected gift in, and catering waiters have a bad habit of whisking away the wedding favours when they’re clearing the coffee mug off the tables.
I bet none of my guests will even notice the lack of random gift on their dining table.
If you really hate the idea of not buying something for your guests, charity donations are always a nice gesture.
But the last thing your friends and family need is more random tat cluttering up their homes – so it’s time to save them the guilt of binning your Etsy-bought keyring.
The friend also explained why she was late to the ceremony, apologising in the process.
”I love both of you so much and was so thrilled to be there for your big day, I hope you can understand where I am coming from too,” wrote the pal who explained that one of the fellow guests that she was driving to the wedding wasn’t ready on time.
The text exchange left fellow Redditors divided, with some understanding where the bride was coming from while others dubbed the angry text message as unnecessary.
”I can see where [the bride] is coming from, if you expect people to pay $225 per person to attend your birthday party that you host in your honour and give $100 to do the same for theirs,” one person thought.
”Tardiness to a wedding is rude no matter whose fault it is.”
Another remarked: ”Etiquette allows wedding gifts up to the first year of marriage. Sending money without a card is tacky.
”Showing up late to a wedding is crass.”
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Someone else, meanwhile, said: ”I mean, I do think I probably would’ve written a card for a wedding, and I think sending it day-of would’ve probably been nice.”
However, there were also plenty of those who reckoned the bride was being far too ruthless with her pal.
As one critic put it: ”The bride is rude and a birthday party where people have to pay $225 to attend is also tacky.”
”Talk is cheap. It costs her nothing to say, “I TOTALLY would have paid $225 to attend your party”. She didn’t, though,” another penned.
”Now you know that the bride would rather make you feel bad about not even missing or interrupting the ceremony, just so she has something to complain and be the victim about, than have $100 and say thank you.”