I’m sleeping with my hubby’s boss – I’m used for sex & hate myself for it but I’m scared if I stop my man will be fired
A WOMAN has revealed that she is cheating on her husband and sleeping with his boss.
The anonymous mother explained that it all started when her daughter was diagnosed with cancer, and her husband’s boss expressed deep sympathy for the situation.
What then developed into a private lunch with the mum and her husband’s boss, since spiralled into hotel meet-ups and a full blown affair.
But the mum-of-one has confessed that she hates herself for the situation and is terrified that if she ends things, her husband will be fired.
The petrified mother took to social media to share her revelation, leaving many totally stunned.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/offmychest forum, under the username @throwawayporsiempre, the woman titled her post ‘‘I’m cheating on my husband with his boss and I’m so disgusted with myself idk what to do’.
She then explained that she, 34, and her husband, 36 have been together for 12 years and married for eight.
They have a seven-year-old daughter and their life was idyllic, until their little girl was diagnosed with cancer.
The mother confessed: “The news put us under a great emotional and financial strain.
“Between treatments, procedures, chemo, and doctor visits we were struggling to still have money for basic necessities.
“Tensions were high and our marriage started struggling during this time. Mostly due to the fact both of us were stressed and working long hours all the time.”
The mother revealed that her husband was desperate for a promotion at work, and she decided to go with him to a work event.
She continued: “A couple of months ago my husband mentioned to me that he was being considered for a promotion at work that would increase his salary significantly.
“This promotion would help solve our financial problems, and hopefully help us get back to old times.
“I was really hoping my husband would be able to get it. A week later I attended a work event with my husband and started chatting with his boss.
“I mentioned how our daughter needed so much medical attention and we were struggling to make ends meet. I mentioned how my husband worked so hard for this company, and how this promotion would really change our lives right now.
“His boss seemed very sympathetic to the situation and told me he would definitely take that into consideration when making a decision.
He said it would just be one time in exchange for a better life
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“He asked me for my number to check up on our daughter, and I honestly didn’t think anything of it so I gave it to him.
“He continued making conversation here and there the rest of the night, but nothing inappropriate or weird.”
But the anonymous woman explained that things took a turn when soon after, she received a call from her husband’s boss.
She explained: “I thought it was odd and asked if everything was ok with my husband.
“His boss said he could not stop thinking about our situation and would like to discuss things with me over lunch.
“He said he didn’t want to make my husband feel like this promotion was a pity party for him if he did end up getting in and that’s why he wanted to talk to me alone.
“I agreed and we met up for lunch an hour or so later. Once we were at lunch my husband’s boss started explaining the benefits that would come with the promotion.
“The promotion came with a significant salary increase, larger percentage of quarterly bonuses, and a larger percentage when it was time for profit sharing (which is something my husband’s company does every year).
“Honestly, if my husband was able to get this, our income would increase by approximately 50-60k a year.
“After he explained this to me, the conversation completely changed and turned into how attractive he found me and how many other qualified candidates had applied for the position.
“I quickly understood where this was going and why he had asked to meet me alone. I did not know how to react to this and simply said I felt uncomfortable and attempted to leave, to which he stopped me and said he would give me time to think.
“He said it would just be one time in exchange for a better life, and that he had to make a decision on the promotion by Friday, so I had till then.”
Left feeling horrified, the mother added: “I was so disgusted by this and planned on telling my husband when he got home. When I got home I started looking over some of our finances and realised we were worse than I thought.
“I would probably have to get a second job soon. My husband ended up coming in pretty late that night, he had been putting in so much overtime in order to impress his boss.
“I sat and thought about our situation all night. I thought about how we would not be able to afford a relapse in my daughter’s health with our current salaries, how I couldn’t remember the last time we went on a vacation, how if my daughter did have a relapse I wanted to make sure she experienced as much as she could while I had her and how we couldn’t afford that.
I knew we couldn’t afford for him to lose his job
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“Now, I know the next part will receive judgement and trust me I hate myself for it as well, but I ended up calling my husband’s boss the next day.
“I asked what exactly he wanted from me. He told me he wanted to sleep with me once, and he would guarantee my husband the position with all the benefits he had mentioned.
“I told him okay and he messaged me with the place to meet, time and date.
“When the day came, I thought and reassured myself this was the right decision for my family.
“I told my husband I was going to dinner and a movie with some girlfriends that wanted to take me out since I had been so stressed. He kissed me and told me to have fun.”
The woman recalled the first time she cheated on her husband with his boss, as she shared: “I showed up at the hotel and went up to the room. Once I was there….well you know what happened.
“I cried the whole time through it and tried my hardest to disassociate from what was happening.
“I wish I could say it was over fast, but it wasn’t. I didn’t move, I just laid on the bed crying.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“Once it was over, he told me “Make sure you’re ready to celebrate tomorrow, your husband just landed a huge promotion” got dressed and left.
“I will never forget how disgusted I felt when hearing those words. I laid for I don’t know how long on the bed before finally getting dressed and heading home.
“When I got home I went straight to bed and cried myself to sleep. My husband tried comforting me, thinking I was crying about our daughter.
“For the next month, I couldn’t look my husband in the face. However, it was great to see him without all the stress and worry all the time.
“He had been so excited whenever he told me he got the promotion.”
Things quickly got worse, as the woman admitted: “About a month after the encounter, my husband’s boss called asking to meet up again. I told him to f**k off and not contact me again, but he said if I didn’t meet up with him he would not only fire my husband, but also tell him about what had happened.
I feel so disgusted with myself. I feel so trapped
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“I freaked out, I didn’t know what to do. I couldn’t imagine how devastated my husband would be if he found out I had cheated on him. I also knew we couldn’t afford for him to lose his job.
“So I did it. I met up with him. And it happened again. And two weeks later again. And two weeks later again. It’s been going on for a little under a year now.
“He calls and wants to meet up, blackmails me every time, and I give in every time. I cry for hours after every time.”
Disappointed with her actions, the mother acknowledged: “I feel so disgusted with myself. I feel so trapped. At this point I don’t have intimacy with my husband anymore.
“I love him so much yet I am cheating on him every other week. I know that I don’t deserve sympathy or forgiveness. I know I chose to do this. I hate myself so much.”
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users were left gobsmacked by the woman’s emotional story, and many flocked to the comments to share their sympathy and advice.
Just come clean, it’ll make everything so much better
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One person said: “At this point, you should just come clean to your husband. You’re in misery. Your husband answers to his Boss who is blackmailing his wife.
“You think it’s bad for you. Your husband will feel worse. He got the promotion he wanted because you slept with his boss. Everyday he answers to the same boss who is probably thinking about the next time he’s going to sleep with you.”
Another added: “Go to your husband’s HR department. Maybe you can get his boss fired for ethics violations.”
A third commented: “Just come clean, it’ll make everything so much better. If you don’t, things are gonna turn really bad.”