I listened to your advice over controlling boyfriend and set new rules

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my boyfriend started becoming jealous and demanded that I put a photo of him on my social media, I started to see red flags.

He was reading my phone messages and putting pressure on me to move in with him – or break up.

My friends and family said he was bad news but I was torn and needed an objective opinion.

I’m 48 and he is 52. We met online and had been dating for a year.

You told me I should listen to my instincts.

You said it sounded like he was being controlling and wanted me all to himself.

If my friends and family didn’t like him and he was giving me ultimatums that made me feel uncomfortable, then it was likely he would not make me happy long-term.

You sent me your support pack,­­ ­Abusive Partners, so I could look out for the signs of this in his behaviour.

I decided to stay, but also to set boundaries and to then see if he can stick to them.

Your advice and information gave me the tools – and the strength – to do this.

Thank you for your fast, honest and helpful response.

DEIDRE SAYS: I’m glad I was able to help you think things through in this difficult situation. I hope your relationship improves.