Dear Abby: Parenting at ex’s house is an issue for new wife

Dear Abby: I am a divorced father who has recently remarried. When there’s no school, I bring the kids to our house. The problem is, my present wife can’t stand that I spend time with my children at my ex’s home. Academics are crucial at this point in their lives. Or should I continue the arrangement that my kids, my former wife and I have established? The facilitator told us to make sure we always use the gender pronoun preferred by the person we are talking to or about. [...] she didn’t give any guidance about how to know what those pronouns are if it’s not clear from someone’s outward appearance. Is there a polite way to ask someone if they prefer to be called he or she? [...] the person’s name should be a clue about which gender he or she identifies with. While I wouldn’t recommend asking what gender the person is, it wouldn’t be inappropriate to use the word “they” when speaking about the person because that pronoun is being used more in the singular.